China Three Gorges University is a comprehensive university. There are many foreigners from several countries. So, it’s a pretty good chance for our Chinese to make friends with them, which would be a wonderful experience. And i am the one who have a friend from Bangladesh. It’s a real experience on me.
Our first met was in the Skating Rink behind NanYuan by accident. I was a freshman then and he also was new here.We were both new hands to learn skating with our friends.I skated a little better than him.So when he fell down to the ground i give him a hand,which became our first acquaintance. I taught him some skills to how to skate with my poor English.But he still praise me that my English is good which made me very embarrassed.Then we went back dormitory and left phone number. In the latter days, he called me frequently, but i was not willing to answer him.Not only because i thought my oral English is poor,but also i was a little fear result from our unfamiliar relationships.Because in china ,we won’t get very close with a stranger or a friend you have just known in such a short time.But i still contacted with him online chatting in order to be a friendly person.
These kind of days last about two weeks.And always express his affections to me,which i tried hard to avoid. One day ,he acquired me whether i had time to accompany him to buy skating shoes.I refused indirectly with the reason of having test that day.But he didn’t believe me,thought i was a liar. Then ,within a long time,he didn’t contacted me.
On the Christmas’ Eve,he told me that he had prepared apples for me,which made me a little surprised.So i prepared one for him too.Because i had many things that day,he called me whole day in order to give me the apples until he finally gave them to me.I asked the reason why he gave me two.He told me because he was a boy !How interesting!
The other day ,he wanted to borrow some money from me, which made me so confused.He said he was in a urgent but i hesitated so much.I was the first time that a foreigner borrow money from me. Although we knew each other for about two years and he promised me that he would return me within two days , i also had some worries. I consulted some friends to give me some advice and all of them suggested me not to lend.So i refused him again,which made him very angry. Even said something rudely.He told me that he wouldn’t believe me any more and all Chinese are just like me,which made me very speechless.Maybe it’s the differences between two cultures.
I don’t think i was wrong.Because i just think about things like most Chinese do.We should think twice before we making the decisions.Am i wrong?And i cant stand for all Chinese. I do it ,so everyone will do it like me?It’s the gap in our relationships with foreigners ,how to relieve the gap and build a better relationships are what we should think about. Let’s hand in hand to make good friends with foreigners to gain quite different happiness!